For me Its quite simple. My brain decided it. Literally. The days I found out I’m trans, my brain would do this weird thing, where I could think about completely different stuff and suddenly my now chosen name would “fly” into my mental Field of View, like an asteroid in star wars or so. I told that name a close friend and 4 weeks later when we went to the club together I told him, that I will stick with it, because I didnt had a better idea (and it was the only name I really felt comfortable with).

  • Lucy [she/faer]
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    262 months ago

    I was thinking about Satan on my walk and figured that “Lucy” is short for “Lucifer”, and then was like “Lucy actually sounds pretty nice…”

    I returned home and told about it with my friend (also trans) and she was like “wow so cool!!!” so I went with it. That’s it :3

    • Lucy :3
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      62 months ago

      And I just thought of random names until I found one I liked. lol

  • syl
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    I kept my name. It’s unisex, and a search of it on LinkedIn actually shows like a 70-30 split of female to male respectively. I’m comfortable with it and used to it and, living in the US rn, I don’t want to deal with all the name change issues.

    • @hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      92 months ago

      Ayy, samesies. I love my name, and like you said, it’s a very common female name. There’s also a certain sense of power that comes from being un-deadnameable.

  • @CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de
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    I’m not sure I qualify for this (relevant username) but I do have two names I think about using if I ever crack my shell. One is just a name I always liked and one is part of an online pseudonym I used a long time (and that I still use sometimes) that has a totally different backstory, can be used kinda androgynously but is mostly used by women with one noticeable exception.

    And no one is stopping anyone from choosing more than one name.

    • Norah (pup/it/she)
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      102 months ago

      That doesn’t have to be something you need to be sad about Smorty! Look at it this way, you’ve got a world of opportunity ahead of you for what you can pick! It’s such an exciting and fun time figuring out what name suits you best, what feels most comfy! That’s !!! super exciting !!!

      • smorty/maria [she/her]
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        yisyis, i didn say iss a bad thg, im jus - rlli thinkin bout it n - eh - i guess i will be maria. cuz yea - eh, feels gud… but is sadly christian name so thad makes me sad… bt alsuu conveys a sense of… purity which i like.,.,

        • Norah (pup/it/she)
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          92 months ago

          Maria is really pretty!! I think Norah can similarly be considered religious but I like that it means honour :3

          • fxomt
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            I wat just going to suggest that name, too :D its a really pretty name. It still sounds good in other languages, too (maryam in arabic, for example). Top 10 names imo

  • ElfBean
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    132 months ago

    For a while when I was a kid I wondered what my name would be if I chose it myself and that was the only one that felt like it fit. Totally forgot about it until after my egg shattered and realized that it’s gender-neutral and I really like the cutesy nickname/diminutive forms

  • @katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    132 months ago

    That honestly took me over 6 months. I tried a number of names on for size, but none felt quite right. The ones that felt right were in use by close family or friends. The one I really wanted is used by both my ex-wifes, so that would’ve been weird for the kids even if they’re not kids anymore.

    It was much easier picking out names for the kids actually. Otherwise I followed the advice I got to take a name that is sorta common in my age group so I went through all the lists multiple times until I decided. I now officially have a girl’s name, even if I’m nowhere near passing. It isn’t as bad in my country as in many others and I must say it went a lot better than I expected, but I’m still proud of myself. 😊

  • Xana (She/They)
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    I used it since I was 13 on IRC ““catfishing””, well it was not catfishing actually, it was me expressing how I wanted to live, but I didn’t realised at that time. Then, I came out at 27 and remembered those days and rescued the name.

  • Cait
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    102 months ago

    I new my name 7 years before I new I was trans, I already ordered stuff on that name and my whole online persona was built around it. I even named my cat that. Even before I was out to myself I listened to that name way better than my dead name.

  • Arkhive (they/she)
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    It’s sort of the femme version of my given name. There’s a lot of history in my family with that name that I do appreciate and value and want to feel connected to. I did a bunch of research into the names and language of where my family originated and found my new name and instantly fell in love with it. I remember sobbing after writing it down for the first time.