• Psychadelligoat
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      361 year ago

      assumed feminism is for women

      It’s because of the name and history of fighting for women. The movement should have gone for “egalitarianism” if they didn’t want people to think of women first/exclusively.

      It’s why I’ve vehemently rejected the label of feminist even when I’m in feminist spaces with feminist friends: I’m here for everyone, there’s a word for that, use it.

      • @jeffw@lemmy.worldOP
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        Except movements are often named after the oppressed group. Black Lives Matter, for example, doesn’t really want cops to only stop killing Black people. Black people are just disproportionately impacted.

        Feminism is about raising up women’s status in society. That benefits men in the process though.

        • Psychadelligoat
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          321 year ago

          Except movements are often named after the oppressed group

          That’s nice, but I don’t care. Doing things in a stupid way because “that’s how we’ve always done it” is literally conservativism, which I’m not really for.

          This thread originates from a comment surprised that people would look at a gendered term and assume actions done in that name are for said gender, this should be an obvious and predictable outcome, one that’s been seen countless times, and has a simple and easy fix

          • Doom
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            121 year ago

            No your position is dumb, it is petty and so silly and a perfect example of how dumb you’re being. No one decided this. It just developed this way. Your critique is the name?

            Feminism is an egalitarian movement that likely you’d not even know what the word meant had this movement not continued for its history. Feminism is the grandmother of almost any egalitarian movement today.

            Fool. You’re a petty fool

        • From an outsider, when I heard Black Lives Matter I thought the core goal was to value black lives more.

          It’s less about what they “want” and more about what got them to protest… which is police behaviour towards black individuals, not everyone.

      • Doom
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        That’s petty and sexist as fuck. Literally the perfect example of toxic masculinity

        It is the equivalent of only using soaps labeled “for men”

        Do you need things gendered correctly for you to use it? Maybe your gender should’ve fought for equality first then. Maybe then you can have your Malenism or whatever you’d want it to be called

      • It’s because of the name and history of fighting for women

        Sounds like different movement then. There is nothing wrong with saying feminism did its job and now we need equalism.

        You might be okay with that refocus, but maaannnyyy feminist aren’t.

    • @KuroAnimates@feddit.de
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      261 year ago

      The problem is that the “Kill all men” extremists are often the loudest which causes many to think that feminism in general is like that.

      • @TheGrandNagus@lemmy.world
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        Yep. There’s an unfortunate amount of people who cloak themselves under the guise of being a feminist, or claiming to care about women’s issues, that could be more accurately referred to as misandrists.

        It’s my belief that there’s a heavy overlap between these people and TERFs. With TERFs hating trans women in particular (notice how prominent TERFs like JKR never seem to talk about trans men? It’s always “men in dresses infiltrating women’s public toilets”, which amusingly is also pushing the misogynistic idea that women are delicate fragile flowers that eternally need protection in every aspect of their lives).

        But why? Why trans women in particular? Because not only do these TERFs view trans women as men, it’s worse. They view trans women as men infiltrating their women-only “club”, and that’s something they don’t tolerate.

        It’s unfortunate that terminally online minorities within movements that screech the loudest can have such a profound effect on the image of that movement. I think it’s also a big part of why menslib movements struggle. People hear anything to do with it and their brain is clouded with preconceptions like angry incels, Andrew Tate, Jordan Peterson, etc. People who often purport themselves as activists of men’s rights, when in reality they’re usually either grifters or people yearning to be back in the 1950s.

        • @Jarix@lemmy.world
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          Fucking hilarious how much a ferengi has to say about feminism! Thanks for commenting(and for the comment too!) so i got to see this.

          And thanks to all you who upvoted it and helped me see it as well

          Edit: yes i did notice its nagus and not negus but im okay with what i said

        • It’s unfortunate that terminally online minorities within movements that screech the loudest can have such a profound effect on the image of that movement.

          It’s cause we are in the age of valuing the loudest opinion not the most logical.

          Lack of education is a hell of a drug.

      • And these both side feminist are on the same team as the “kill all men” ones. I’ve never seen any “real feminist” call these ones out.

    • @homura1650@lemm.ee
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      Every movement has a canon: the core principles behind it, a mythology about its history, and the textbook statement of its objectives.

      Every movement also has a reality. Thousands or millions of people with their own ideosynchratic beliefs forming a complex social web. Within this web, a vibrant biosphere of memes [0] develop, spread and evolve on this social web. A movement is simply a name we give to a cluster of memes within this complex web. It is not any of the myths we tell about it; those are merely particular memes holding the cluster together.

      The author of this article is a self described liberal feminist. She identifies a change that occurred within her bubble of feminism, where it became increasingly anti-man.

      To be clear, that is not all the author says. Once she gets to the “Let’s talk about how the patriarchy harms men and boys” section, she stops the meta conversation about the movement itself, and spends the rest of the article discussing mens issues directly.

      However, to your comment, and the first part of the article, maybe we need to stop hiding behind the mythology we tell ourselves about feminist; and start recognizing that the “feminist” portions of the social web are still susceptible to anti-feminist memes.

      [0] in its original sense; as a direct analog to the genes of biology.

    • @everyone_said@lemmy.world
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      It probably is. Not everyone has a robust education, misinformation is rampant, and there is always a new generation still learning the world. At a glance the word “feminism” appears as a movement just for women, so occasionally having headlines like this can help the misinformed or still learning to reevaulate their understanding.

      Some people are surprised to learn it is not just about women.

      • I’ve been told it’s not about just women, I don’t believe that until it’s renamed.

        Why call something a name to misrepresent it?? Unless of course, feminism is mostly about women and this is just gas lighting?

        How many feminists fought for men’s right recently compared to fighting for women?

    • If feminism wasn’t women centric, it wouldn’t be called feminism, it would be called humanism or just equality.

      How can a movement centred around women empowerment also empower men?

      Some people read the above and see it possible, some, like me, see it as an oxymoron.

      If it’s just a label, then just rebrand it…

        • fighting against patriarchy benefits everyone suffering under it

          So right from the get go, the language you use assumes masculinity or “patriarchy” is inherently broken and needs to be fixed. I find that sexist and imo a non sexist take is to free people from human greed and selfishness.

          as women have needed and still need to fight for basic legal rights and autonomy

          Yes! That’s when feminism made sense. It was named after women, for women’s rights, which they got. Feminism being a success meant it was not needed as much.

          ones that are the reason why we all have a better society,

          That’s is VERY subjective and I doubt you would get most people to agree that feminism made their life better. As I guy I can inform you that it has made my life much, much worse. I doubt you would believe me though.

          Disregarding and diminishing all the efforts and benefits by nitpicking over the origin of the word just seems ungrateful and unfair.

          I mean if that’s what you took away from my comment then you misunderstood. Feminism worked well for women, and I’m happy for them. They are the judge on what helps them and what does not. Same way women have that right, I have the right to state that feminism has made life better for women at the expense of men.

          If there are women out there fighting for true equality, please note that if your truly fighting for men, you would use the terminology that communicates that the best, by not using the label feminism.