• @Cryophilia@lemmy.world
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    911 months ago

    Hey that was me back when I had a kbin account. I’m the account in the screenshot.

    That was a direct response to someone asking if I would have sex with a trans man. I got accused of being a chaser for saying “sure, I guess, pre-transition” (the first part) and being a transphobe for saying “but I’m not sexually attracted to dicks” (the second part). Note those two accusations are more or less mutually exclusive, but it doesn’t matter because they’re both deeply, incredibly stupid accusations. The mods and admins of blahaj pointed out how incredibly stupid the accusations were, and some people didn’t like being called stupid, so they went back to hexbear. And continued to be stupid.

        • Cowbee [he/they]
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          411 months ago

          Because chasers undermine the expressed gender identity of trans individuals for the sake of their own sexual pleasure. Calling it “transphilic” is just semantical wordplay that dismisses the inherently predatory nature of chasers.

          • Iapar
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            311 months ago

            I don’t get it.

            How is it undermining that and not affirming? I mean to fetishise a group is wrong, I get that and that is also my opinion but if they want to fuck a transwoman they want that because she is a woman which affirms the womanhood?

            And the point is how is it transhate if you like the trans aspect specifically. Doesn’t make sense to me.

            It is not a wordplay it is what those words mean. Phobic means something like hate or fear and phile means something like love or attraction.

            • Cowbee [he/they]
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              211 months ago

              No, chasers are people that specifically fetishize transwomen or transmen for being trans.

              • Iapar
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                311 months ago

                Hmm okay. But the I still don’t understand how it is transphobic.

                • Cowbee [he/they]
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                  311 months ago

                  You don’t understand how undermining someone’s gender identity by focusing on them being trans over them being their expressed gender is transphobic?

                  • Iapar
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                    11 months ago

                    No.

                    Edit: as phobic means you want to get away from something or don’t want it to exist. Fetishising is the exact opposite.

                    If someone is arachnophobic that doesn’t mean he wants to fuck a spider or undermine the identity of the spider. That someone wants the spider be gone because it is a spider.

                  • Iapar
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                    111 months ago

                    I can see that. But that wouldn’t be “negrophobic” either. Not everything negativ in the context of a group is phobia.

            • @Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee
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              211 months ago

              The poor thing thinks words mean whatever they decide they mean. They’re not capable of explaining their position in an intelligent way, either.