Hell I’m generally fine with eye contact, but if I actually want to pause to put thought into an answer, I will absolutely look away so I can get in my head and think!
I always do this when talking. When listening I can focus on eye contact just fine, but my brain will not let me waste cycles trying to maintain eye contact while thinking through communication with someone.
My eyes always do this and I was diagnosed with ADD as a child after an IQ test. Teachers before always accused me of being dishonest and I got into all sorts of trouble because of it.
I grew up around a lot of pathological liars, and still have two in my life. I detect it so quickly. It’s not like the kind of lying I do, pathological lying is compulsive and sometimes pointless. It has nothing to do with body language, it’s all verbal clues.
I have a really good friend now that I would have written off as a pathological liar. But I had to be around him because we kept getting assigned together. What happened was once he detected that I don’t care about machismo or if he could beat me in a fight, he stopped lying because he was no longer trying to impress me.
Then you notice how far apart their eyes are or there’s a zit there or they’ve a faint monobrow and you wonder if they’ve ever considered shaving it and you just missed most of the last five things they said.
I usually pick something on the wall just to the side of their head and then I get too focused on that and then the conversation is over and I have no idea what just happened.
A friend/co-worker has a trick he uses that I thought was pretty clever, though it only works if you’re nearsighted: he takes off his glasses so he can’t see your eyes but looks like he’s making eye contact
There’s a variety of reasons - some social, some have to do with memory. Brain wiring is weird. When recalling conversations with people I will ‘half insert’ them into the physical space and make eye contact with ‘them’ as I would have in the original conversation. For me it helps with recollection; for the other parties involved I may as well be addressing ghosts.
I went to an alternative school for a bit, and one of the “behaviors” I would get punished for was not making eye contact. I still don’t feel comfortable with it.
If their eyes do that, they might be autistic.
Source: am autistic.
Or socially awkward or anxious
Hell I’m generally fine with eye contact, but if I actually want to pause to put thought into an answer, I will absolutely look away so I can get in my head and think!
I always do this when talking. When listening I can focus on eye contact just fine, but my brain will not let me waste cycles trying to maintain eye contact while thinking through communication with someone.
My eyes always do this and I was diagnosed with ADD as a child after an IQ test. Teachers before always accused me of being dishonest and I got into all sorts of trouble because of it.
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I grew up around a lot of pathological liars, and still have two in my life. I detect it so quickly. It’s not like the kind of lying I do, pathological lying is compulsive and sometimes pointless. It has nothing to do with body language, it’s all verbal clues.
I have a really good friend now that I would have written off as a pathological liar. But I had to be around him because we kept getting assigned together. What happened was once he detected that I don’t care about machismo or if he could beat me in a fight, he stopped lying because he was no longer trying to impress me.
Came here to say this. It’s so hard to look at someone in the eyes.
I don’t know where to look! It’s so awkward.
Bridge of their nose
Look at their right eye. If you look at their left it’ll feel like they’re looking over your shoulder. Lol
Bridge of the nose, or just above it.
Then you notice how far apart their eyes are or there’s a zit there or they’ve a faint monobrow and you wonder if they’ve ever considered shaving it and you just missed most of the last five things they said.
I usually pick something on the wall just to the side of their head and then I get too focused on that and then the conversation is over and I have no idea what just happened.
A friend/co-worker has a trick he uses that I thought was pretty clever, though it only works if you’re nearsighted: he takes off his glasses so he can’t see your eyes but looks like he’s making eye contact
And if their arms or legs are crossed, they’re probably feeling cold.
Source: am cold.
It’s actually both.
Allists! Your eyes are not that interesting! They’re boring to look at 10 minutes straight.
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Depends. Is it cute?
ND salesman checking in. Yep, I hate this lie.
There’s a variety of reasons - some social, some have to do with memory. Brain wiring is weird. When recalling conversations with people I will ‘half insert’ them into the physical space and make eye contact with ‘them’ as I would have in the original conversation. For me it helps with recollection; for the other parties involved I may as well be addressing ghosts.
I went to an alternative school for a bit, and one of the “behaviors” I would get punished for was not making eye contact. I still don’t feel comfortable with it.
Everybody says they’re autistic.
I know, right? I wish everyone could experience what us autism enjoyers live with everyday.
Living with autism is so fun that many of us are or have been depressed for long periods, some even considering suicide.