“R-Word” is a ridiculous over correction. It demeans the reason why “N-Word” exists. We collectively said the N-Word is out of bounds because it’s the very least anyone can do given historical events that continue to resonate to this very day (god dammit). Now the Internet thinks “R-Word” is a good idea. Why? The word is “Retard.” It’s okay to say retard. What’s not okay is demeaning people by calling them any derogatory term, and blacklisting words thinking that will somehow correct the problem is the height of hubris – as if there are no other suitable replacements. It’s an attempt to take a shortcut to a societal problem. It is, in a word, retarded (you can look up the definition in a dictionary and see it’s an appropriate usage).
It’s only because R word was being heavily censored in reddit. Any use of that word was an immediate comment removal and ban, even if the context wasn’t attacking the disabled/demeaning them.
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“R-Word” is a ridiculous over correction. It demeans the reason why “N-Word” exists. We collectively said the N-Word is out of bounds because it’s the very least anyone can do given historical events that continue to resonate to this very day (god dammit). Now the Internet thinks “R-Word” is a good idea. Why? The word is “Retard.” It’s okay to say retard. What’s not okay is demeaning people by calling them any derogatory term, and blacklisting words thinking that will somehow correct the problem is the height of hubris – as if there are no other suitable replacements. It’s an attempt to take a shortcut to a societal problem. It is, in a word, retarded (you can look up the definition in a dictionary and see it’s an appropriate usage).
Unless the context is about music, it’s probably not ok to say. Yes, even where you live.
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That’s ritard, short for ritardando
Unless you meant a non chord tone resolving downwards but that’s retardation
Can I ask what context you hear it used in?
“Sorry I just took off my leotard. Allow me to retard”
“I need to retard the timing on my carburetor because it’s suddenly 1973 again”
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@NotLemming @MountingSuspicion fellow English and I would say it’s even more offensive here than in the US! Maybe that’s why you’ve not heard it.
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yeah I know! But it was very common for a long time. Retard was voted worst by British disabled people in the early 2000s (and of course the Spastics Society had to rename to Scope in the 90s because of the misuse of the term, so it’s significant if R is worse). Currently both on the “strong” column in the ofcom list (which is a sometimes fun, sometimes horrible reference guide). https://www.ofcom.org.uk/siteassets/resources/documents/research-and-data/tv-radio-and-on-demand-research/tv-research/offensive-language-quick-reference-guide.pdf
It took the US a *lot* longer to recognise spastic/spaz as offensive too.
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I think it got offensive when it was used with" mentally retarded" so blatantly
In French it would be ‘attardé’ I think.
i learned about it being offensive as an “evolution” of american english. i do agree the simple form, out of american english context, means slow.
the default, in american context, now seems to be retarded mental growth.
better to not use it, or at least, know your audience. elon is a moron and can’t read a fucking room to save his life.
It’s only because R word was being heavily censored in reddit. Any use of that word was an immediate comment removal and ban, even if the context wasn’t attacking the disabled/demeaning them.