• @venusaur@lemmy.world
    link
    fedilink
    342 days ago

    Gotta meet somewhere in the middle. Men stop catcalling women, and women give men more compliments, but men need to stop raping women first.

    • Novaling
      link
      fedilink
      English
      181 day ago

      This is part of the reason why I don’t compliment men. The first part is I’m just shy as fuck when it comes to complimenting anybody and will literally flounder in my mind about whether to say it or not, only for the person to walk away. mission failed

      But the other half is not wanting to seem like I’m hitting on a man, because then if he harasses/pesters me, he’ll think he’s justified because I gave him a compliment so obviously I must wanna fuck him…

      But yeah I’ll be thinking, “his fashion is so good!” or “that cologne smells nice!” or “I love that tshirt!” but then I worry about coming off the wrong way, so I don’t say anything…

      • @venusaur@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        9
        edit-2
        1 day ago

        Yeah. We need to teach our boys not to assume somebody is hitting on them and that they are not entitled to a person’s body, affection or attention. Then women will feel more comfortable displaying their feelings and men won’t have to worry so much about missing signs.

      • @Nelots@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        English
        13
        edit-2
        1 day ago

        You’re not wrong! Also not super relevant here. This is like responding “all lives matter” to a black lives matter comment. Well, maybe not that bad, but I hope you get my point.

        • @stephen01king@lemmy.zip
          link
          fedilink
          English
          131 day ago

          So men raping women is relevant to the topic of men receiving compliments, but women raping men is irrelevant to the topic of men raping women?

          • but women raping men is irrelevant to the topic of men raping women?

            Uh. Yes.

            You are looking for reasons to be upset. Knock it off.

            If you must hear me say it: women should stop raping men. There you go. Mission accomplished.

          • @Nelots@lemm.ee
            link
            fedilink
            English
            5
            edit-2
            1 day ago

            In a vacuum like that it sounds bad, yes. That wasn’t the entire context though. What I do think women raping men is irrelevant to is the topic of women being too afraid to give compliments to random men in fear of getting assaulted. Which is the whole reason rape was brought up in the first place.

            Like, the other comment said I marginalized half the population. I do not mean to. I know its an issue and more attention needs to be brought to it because too many people—especially other men—don’t take it seriously at all and can even treat it as a good thing. I just don’t think now is the time to bring it up.

          • @Nelots@lemm.ee
            link
            fedilink
            English
            4
            edit-2
            24 hours ago

            (I copied this from my other comment, but it was very relevant to this one so I figured I’d say it here too.)

            I do not mean to. I know its an issue and more attention needs to be brought to it because too many people—especially other men—don’t take it seriously at all and can even treat it as a good thing. I just don’t think now is the time to bring it up.

    • @Nelots@lemm.ee
      link
      fedilink
      English
      51 day ago

      Completely unrelated but I just want to say you have a good taste in pokemon.