An old friend/aquaintance I’ve not spoken to in a few years popped up recently and we got chatting a little over text. In the few years since we spoke she’s had two babies by two different guys. They’re ~6 months and ~2-3 years.

She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I’m not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I’ve frankly not thought about in a few years. But hey, it’s something to do, and it might be interesting. So I suggested a coffee shop near her and asked if she’d be able to get time away from the kids, but she said that no, she’d have to bring the kids along.

I don’t want to be a dick but I’m really not interested in sitting in a coffee shop with two babies. They’re mostly just going to be the focus of the occasion because they need constant attention, and I don’t really like kids in general. And, if they cry or act up and attract attention I will hate that.

AITA? How do I tell her I’m really not interested in sitting with her babies for an afternoon?

  • @dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
    61•3 days ago

    Yes you’re the AH. Even taking the kids out of the equation and you’re framing this as what you can get out of this meeting. That’s not a friend. Why not just say no.

    She said that we should get coffee and catch up properly, and I was sort of down, although I’m not really that enthusiastic about catching up with someone I’ve frankly not thought about in a few years.

    Yeah sod what the other party thinks s as long as you’re getting something out of it. I see this as wasting her time on someone who isn’t appreciative of it.

    Also, why mention baby daddies?

    • @WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      5•2 days ago

      Yes you’re the AH.

      I’m pretty sure there is a rule on the internet that if someone starts with this, at least the person saying it is an AH.

      That’s not a friend.

      that’s quite obvious, mr entitled parent, they are acquintances. facebook has destroyed people’s vocabulary.

      Why not just say no.

      because why not be in touch with old classmates or colleagues sometimes? you don’t have to decline just because they are not a friend! and people say it’s me who is “anti-social”

      Also, why mention baby daddies?

      wat?

      • @dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de
        13•2 days ago

        You do realise that when OP said “AITA?” it means am I the asshole?. Acceptable answers to this would be yes or no.

        Anything outside of that is my opinion provided on a post asking for our opinions. Seems you’ve taken offence to this and that says more about you than me pal.

        Edit: this is why I like to preach positive intent as had you’d done that you not be calling me out for giving my opinion on a post it was explicitly asked for.