• @Delphia@lemmy.world
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    193 days ago

    Im sorry if its misogynistic but I dont really want a woman nobody else wants to fuck.

    Like… if the consensus is “Naaaaaah” theres probably a really good reason.

    • Bunnylux
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      583 days ago

      The fact that you’re basing your desire on anyone else’s opinions at all means you are not based. Next.

      • @jsomae@lemmy.ml
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        43 days ago

        The fact that you don’t take other people’s opinions into account for desire may suggest you lack Theory of Mind. You should get that looked into. Other people’s dispositions toward something are one of the best heuristics available for quickly learning about that thing.

        • @naught101@lemmy.world
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          33 days ago

          Snakes and spiders? Yes. Flavours of icecream? No. If you’re treating people you might be attracted to more like snakes and spiders, that unfortunate for you.

    • @abbadon420@lemm.ee
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      163 days ago

      People are downvoting you, but there’s truth there. I assume you’re not just talking about looks, because that would be stupid and you deserve all the downvotes. However, If a woman has some major red flags that everybody except you knows about, than your statement holds. For example when you join a new friend group or you move to a new town and you think you meet a nice girl, bit everybody starts warning you te get out.

      Back in the day, we used the maxim of “don’t stick your dick in crazy”. You can’t say that anymore in this time of nazis and toxic masculinity, but I think this is what OP means.

    • Quicky
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      163 days ago

      That comment is badly phrased, but I can appreciate at least some of the sentiment. I’ve always felt pride if other people have found my partner attractive. It appeals to my self-esteem and vanity knowing that this person who is desired by others, chose me.

    • stebo
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      143 days ago

      the consensus is often based on looks, idk if that’s a good reason

    • @Dasus@lemmy.world
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      33 days ago

      Finding someone attractive and wanting to fuck them are two distinct things.

      I can appreciate someone being very fucking attractive indeed, despite not wanting to fuck them due to me not wanting to fuck people in relationships.

      It’s like imagine someone really fucking sexy to you. Now imagine you have no condoms and you know they have full blown AIDS. Does that perhaps make you less willing to fuck said person? Would for me.