My wife and I are about 3 weeks from closing on our first house and I am losing my god damn mind. All of our finances/budget work out while still having savings for emergency repairs, our inspection went well after having to back out on the first we offered on (tree fell on the house after offer was accepted, thought we could fix but it was a wash) and we really like the area and first impressions of our neighbors.

I know buying a house is a top “most stressful thing” an average person can go through, but this is a lot harder than I thought and I didn’t downplay it in my head. I am guessing I will feel like this for the first year or two and progressively it will become normal right? We have a lot of support from our families (financially, emotionally and labor/handypeople) so I am still optimistic about the whole thing, but my appetite is non existent and insomnia seems to be working in overdrive.

  • 👍Maximum Derek👍English
    16•4 days ago

    It all becomes normal after a while but I still stress about the things that could take it away. Treefalls during big storms and fire hazards and places where people might trip and gutter overflows and was that a carpenter ant and and and.

    A now, ten years later, we’re doing some minor remodeling and a lot of those money stresses and fears of the unknown are coming back.

    • EdgarallenpwnOPEnglish
      10•4 days ago

      The first house our offer was accepted on had a large tree (the biggest tree I ever saw IRL besides some state parks) and had a credit to get it removed. 3 days after our offer was accepted a big storm came through and a branch fell, destroying the roof on the back half. We went through with the inspection because they told us insurance was replacing it, but we walked into a house with water going from the roof to the basement. There was even water pooling in the breaker box. We mentioned everything we found to them and they just said “well our neighbor is the contractor and he can do the roof and some of the walls. If you guys want to talk to insurance or find another contractor that’s fine”. We backed out after that.

      Edit: There were multiple broken struts in the roof and they “didn’t know about” and said the neighbor could fix them. We looked up the neighbor and he’s just some guy with an LLC doing handy work. Nothing against that but when it comes to structural work, I would want an artitect or engineer to take a look, not some handyman who can “fix it” while missing a lot of the damage our inspector found.