If your post would end up like that in a day, please just refrain from posting it, in any community, or use a throwaway. It is very destructive, especially since all and every comment also becomes unreachable with it.
Sincerely,
With all due respect,
Your Lemmy neighbor
I’m fed up with this shit, and I know it well that it’s not just me.
Do not bomb your communities, please.
I promise, I’ll end up setting up a public instance that does not obey any deletions because of these madlads. Seriously, where is pushshift for lemmy?
@WhyJiffie I’ll try to reply using this platform (Friendica… I had no success with Mastodon, Tootik and Pixelfed). I tried to reply to a reply in this thread but my answer failed to federate (and Friendica doesn’t return their reply in the search box). I’m replying with the following intent: to remind about neurodivergence. I am ND myself (I’m not autistic, but I was diagnosed with schizotypal PD, and I suspect I could actually have Geschwind syndrome; in any case, I’m certainly ND because I can’t think/express nor see/perceive/feel things in “typical ways”). ND people express themselves in non-typical ways (my reply is hopefully an example of that). ND people are often mistaken as AI (and this can further deepen the alienation ND people often feel and suffer from). People often downvote content without further try to engage/explain _why_ they downvoted, and ND content is more prone to downvotes due to sincericide (exacerbate sincerity) and seemingly lack of “emotional resonance” (i.e. “cold-sounding” texts) with NT (neurotypicals). Or, ND content is simply ignored, ghosted, relegated to the void, either because NT people don’t know how to further engage with such a content, or because NT people couldn’t even bother to try and read it in the first place (people are becoming accustomed with short texts, fast content, and ND texts can be looooong). Best case scenario, ND people are replied back with superficial replies because their content couldn’t communicate what they intended to communicate. And this can be pretty infuriating/frustrating, especially because ND people often face the lack of belonging, feeling like they can’t fit anywhere… and this often leads to resigned departure, which you referred to as “permanently deleted posts”. This is something I did: I left Lemmy many months ago, partly because of the many phenomena I described: it feels frustrating to be yourself and being drown into either ghosting, downvoting, superficiality or prejudice, even though I tried not to bother… but what we write is fragments deep from our souls. I can understand the feeling of watching a reply vanishing with an entire post, it’s frustrating… just as it’s frustrating to watch a post being misread or ghosted because I was born akin to an extraterrestrial trying to communicate with fellow humans to no avail. That’s why I often find myself “nuking” my own content: because there’s no reason to keep a communication attempt that led to no meaningful and deep communication. I hope this clarifies one of the reasons why “Permanently deleted” could happen.
I think i might be ND just going off what your wrote as I can relate to most of it… sheet.
I see, I’m sorry for your bad experiences.
while the ND/NT devide can have a significant effect on what kind of responses a long post may receive, I think about those who obviously didn’t read beyond the first 10 words in yet another way. I think they have a mental disorder of severe attention deficit. there’s some nuance to it, like sometimes the person is just in a hurry or something, but this can often be seen from the quality of the response because that 3rd type of person I mentioned is very prone to make very short, meaningless comments, which also have other properties I don’t know how to put into words, but which make you feel they didn’t even try to give something useful. and brainrot platforms like tiktok really don’t help with this worldwide issue.
I see. Hmm. The cases where I find deletion problematic always had something useful in them, either the post or the threads.
@WhyJiffie Disclaimer: I’m not sure if Friendica is respecting the thread format from Lemmy, in my first attempt, Friendica sent this reply as a whole new sub-thread instead of part of the previous sub-thread. Sorry if this is being sent outside the sub-thread, it’s a glitch from Friendica.
Thanks
On the one hand, it makes sense. Hurry is perfectly understandable, given how “modern life” often vampirizes human time (while also vampirizing our attention span, which also corroborates with, and exacerbates, the phenomenon you described as severe attention deficit).
However, the hurry to reply is just another symptom/phenomenon brought by online activities: we’re often expected to act “now”, reacting to real-time information, prioritizing action over (deep) thought… and there’s a Brazilian saying “a pressa é inimiga da perfeição”, roughly translating to “hurry is the enemy of perfection”; things don’t need to be as fast, at least not immediately (not that we need to seek perfection: here, “perfection” it’s just euphemism for well-thought interactions).
For example (a meta-example): this reply to your reply wasn’t written so recently. I saw your reply when it had been 10 minutes since you had sent it (11 hours ago). Then I read it, then I read it again, and again… I read it several times so I could understand all the points you shared. Even though I wasn’t going to reply immediately (i.e. as soon as I saw), I began to gather fragments from my thoughts-replies (which started to pop up inside my head as soon as I began reading), writing these fragments as notes so I could further develop and compile them, only effectively sending when my reply was complete and ready. It’s an old habit of mine, gradually writing and preparing a text/reply/post over hours or days.
Maybe I got this habit through literature, where I often write down and compile my thoughts as they pop up. Maybe I got this habit from Geminispace (a cyberspace within the so-called smallweb/smolweb) where its protocol prefers and encourages raw text over media. Maybe it’s a fundamental part of archetypal traits from ND and/or PDs… In any case, it can be reflected as a proof-of-concept of how interactions can happen without needing such a hurry from the modern web, allowing for better interaction depth.
Also, it can be pointed out how developing a response gradually over hours, in a way, helps with both attention deficit and anxiety. Of course, there are no simple one-size-fits-it-all solutions because each person is different, but it seems like an useful approach (saving/bookmarking what is going to be replied and developing the reply gradually over the day or over a few days, without a hurry to do that so immediately; IMHO, the Web would be slow-paced, but richer and deeper in content than it is nowadays).
Exactly. This is also why I mentioned Geminispace in my previous paragraph: there’s a jarring contrast between its raw text format and the fast-consumption media (not that much of a difference from “fast-food”: readily available, but unhealthy) from TikTok and other mainstream “social” networks, with the former prioritizing brains and the latter prioritizing gains.
Another word I would think of is superficiality.
Losing useful information/knowledge is frustrating, especially in a world that is becoming increasingly scarce of purposeful knowledge… Although I’m not sure how much the things I ever wrote and sent on Lemmy were that much useful for people, I guess there were possibly helpful contents (explanations, tips, etc) among hundreds of personal entries that got deleted. That’s because I deleted my Lemmy account as a whole, so I had no means to keep certain entries I wished I could keep.
One solution could be ActivityPub allowing for a departing user to update its own actor from given posts, replacing it with a community/instance-wide actor (thus a “de-actorification” of sorts), so the activity would effectively become part of a public domain (given explicit consent from both the actor, the community and the instance, of course). But it’s not an easy thing to implement nor to fully achieve in practice, unfortunately.
yeah, I see the first one appeared as a top level comment, but this is now correctly in this thread. no problem!
oh, I too often do this, with emails, where I compose it for a long time, all the while it changes a lot
that too, but also, often those kinds of comments are just plainly wrong.
that, or what reddit does: replace the username with “deleted”