• @CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world
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    413 hours ago

    Which app? Cause I can’t find the nerdy girls.

    The algorithm just pushes all these women who are wanting someone who will house them and take them on worldly vacations.

    • @Beebabe@lemmy.world
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      213 hours ago

      I tried bumble and hinge, got the ick, and gave up. Yeah, I’ve heard people saying something similar; going on about women looking to be housed. It’s such a huge turnoff and it makes me consider their financial insecurity, to be honest.

      • @CascadianGiraffe@lemmy.world
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        112 hours ago

        Most people seem to accept living on debt or handouts. It’s strange. I see everyone around me (both sexes) acting the same. So it’s not even a dating app issue, I think it’s a people issue. Offer nothing and expect everything in return. Maybe it’s an American thing?

        I don’t want to be grouped into incel mentality, but is there a dating app to meet people from another country?

        • @Beebabe@lemmy.world
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          211 hours ago

          I don’t know, it could be your immediate environment. I certainly noticed this behavior in some friend groups, but not others. I don’t think you need to go that far to avoid the behavior. Just be vigilant and expect reciprocity.