this site is actually so mean literally all the time so im posting this here to let you know you’re not ‘too sensitive’ or something for not wanting to deal with attacks on your gender/body/intelligence for daring to exist and have fun online. the freaks that act like this are NOT the norm (they are just the loud and obnoxious minority) and it’s OK to take your time in recognizing this. <3
Lemmy has a serious “I’m 14 and very badass” problem. Take the tone way down y’all. You wouldn’t act like this in the real world.
I live in a highly repressive area where Trans people are seen as nonhuman beasts, I cant even be myself irl.
You don’t know me.
Can you pinpoint a post which demonstrates this? I’m mostly on blahaj Lemmy communities, but I’d like to see your perspective.
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lemmy is leftist 4chan. no more, no less.
I had half a thought to reply in some sarcastic and mocking ‘I’m angry’ tone, but no, you’re correct. This tweet is correct. I enjoyed this chat and hope you have a great day. Why would I even pretend to be angry about your post? <3
thanks stranger bestie, see you in the parking lot after bagging <3
NO I DON’T FUCK YOU DIE IN A FIRE
aw man :(
…now I feel bad …sorry …i regret it
Yeah, the site is mean. The doomerism is also really strong here. I should probably just try to cut out social media entirely. It’s not good for me.
I know a lot of Lemmy turns their nose up at it because it’s not FOSS, but Bluesky has been legitimately chill IME. The subscribable block/mute lists and the way blocks break quote posts are a game changer. People who are chronic assholes end up shouting into the void and people who aren’t chronic assholes get the picture real quick
I’m annoyed with how mastodon works and I don’t think it’s ever going to change, so I might give bluesky a try.
Embrace tradition. Time to bring back phpbb into the mainstream.
lemmy was like the poison that got me on the road to recovery lol. after years of reddit i was literally one of the first ppl here in the post-api wave, i couldn’t give up scrolling but was so mad about the ethics. switched instances a couple times but in the end you just realize that social media as a concept, even if it’s technically hosted non-profit, is still structured after a model that was created to serve capital. lemmy still enables toxicity in the same way reddit did, and i was just like damn why would i invest time in a platform that doesn’t even make me happy haha
I act with complete silliness and tomfoolery. Some people hate that and get angry at me, ofc im too busy hugging my Blahaj to care :3
🤗🦈🥰 <3
:3
Probably the prevalence of american political posts + the fact that america is fighting a nazi cancer at the moment. A certain directness about a truly dogshit situation is fitting, and insisting on a rock-hard-pleasant tone with atrocities can border on lying.
It doesn’t tend to happen on non-political memes, goofy stuff, or on (kinda surprisingly) Linux communities (mostly)
definitely happens on non political memes and linux communities in my experience :(
There aren’t any non political memes. Maybe the toxicity comes from pretending there are
Most of the arseholes who are arseholes on the Internet are arseholes I’m real life too.
People who chat at the grocery store, or wish you a good day when you are waking in the street are also usually people who are friendly and helpful on the Internet too.
People who get angry because someone else has the gumption to share a road with them are also the kind of people who abuse other Internet users because they share a server in an online game, social network or forum with them. They are also the type of people who get angry queuing at the supermarket and abuse retail workers.
I have a blocklist of 35 people and this site has gotten way more positive and nice. It’s sad that it’s come to blocking so many people though.
All it takes is one arsehole in a nice thread to start insulting people and the whole thread often crumbles into a negative shitshow.
my blocklist grew to like over 80 then i was like, damn shawty do you actually like being here?, then i left 😅
Your instance has a good head start on me by blocking ML. A third of my blocklist is from said instance 😂.
If I wrote comments like I chat in a grocery store queue I’d never write a single comment.
if i wrote comments like i chat in grocery stores id have 2.86k comments
“What are those, just like really big limes? Haha”
I’m not going to start being an asshole out of nowhere but I will go after an asshole and tear them apart. I will never be mean or rude to someone who seems nice. And of course I won’t make fun of someone’s looks or weight or gender or race. But I do make a lot of jokes on other topics and people probably perceive me as rude sometimes when I don’t intend it. I don’t think it’s wrong to be a looser version of yourself here than in real life. Within reason.
If you filter out the “buzzwords of the week” you generally get calmer threads
Its not perfect but I’ve been lucky enough to have some very pleasant interactions here
