Some people fall firmly into one camp or the other. Which do you prefer?
Giving, hate receiving. Have trauma issues around receiving gifts and having strings attached, I can never feel like a gift is just a gift.
I get that, some people think they have to be paid in some way if they give a gift
I used to be like that when I was little. Every had strings attached in that house.
Later in life, I was like present and gifts ARE NO STRINGS ATTACHED. If someone does that they are doing it wrong. And if someone if giving a gift with hidden strings attached, that’s not my problem, “you gave me this a gift, not as an exchange”, they can stop gifting me stuff if they don’t like that haha.
And if you want an exchange, its fine, be clear and we can negociate.
Neither. I don’t want more crap and if there is something I want I’ll have already purchased it.
I don’t like giving gifts because I hate trying to figure out what someone likes only to be disappointed that I suck at shopping.
I like giving! I’m lucky to be financially OK, so any small stuff I want I can just buy. I love to plan a gift for someone, think of options then buy it for them. I like to do personalised gifts for people and make them really nice.
I hate stuff. I hate receiving because too much stuff gives me anxiety. That anxiety over stuff makes giving just as difficult.
I prefer spending my time with people. Either by being there for them or helping them. While I generally don’t like receiving help unless I specifically ask, I’ll allow those with good intentions to help. I can put aside any feelings of annoyances because I know they will feel good being able to help do something for someone else.
My closest relationships have been built on simply being available for each other. Gifts have never had the same outcome from my experiences.
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Both, but only with my closest friends. And by that I mean people who know me (and I know them) well enough that we know what to gift without wishlists and stuff.
I agree with you here. Most gifts I get just get given away, it’s only my bff that gets me what I genuinely like
Receiving since I’m bad at gift giving.
Well, though one could say I technically like receiving more (who doesn’t), if I had to choose, I’d rather give than receive, because I’m not “sucked in” to my own feelings, if that makes sense. It should be noted that I am diagnosed anhedonic and this is cited here as sometimes it’s hard to “feel” something I receive. Compared to someone else getting something because of me and me being able to think “I did it” as they express joy. If only people didn’t consider me selfish because this translates to them as a “flex” mindset.
Giving.
Wish I could have neither.
100%.
Giving comes with the pressure of getting them something special that they will like.
Receiving requires outwardly showing sufficient gratitude that they know they got you a good gift, it’s like being put on the spot.
I honestly prefer watching other people give each other gifts that they like.
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Best: receiving gifts that I actually want.
2nd: giving gifts that are wanted
Suck equally: receiving or giving gifts that are unwanted
Receiving LOL It rarely happens so…
I like giving tho, people usually like my presents
Giving. It’s not that I particular like doing so, since I don’t have too many ppl I could give stuff to… It’s more that I really don’t desire any gifts. Up until this point in life I basically had to move every 1-2 years. Receiving something I don’t like/want means that I’ll have to throw or donate it away so… And the things I actually want are all several hundred dollars and above, since I have gotten basically everything I want that is below that price point
