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Also, I’m too well to go into work. We called them “well days”
Did someone tell you to “feel worse soon” if you took a well day?
(I say this in jest)
Haha no, but that’s a good one.
Most of the days I ignore them because I also have “feeling poor days”.
Yes, salary/paid time off is a must for the luxury of well days.
In 1979, because homosexuality was listed as an illness in Sweden at the time, a few people called into work saying they “felt gay”.
One person even got state benefits for being homosexualAs the article points out, that was only a very small part of the overall effort to change the classification, however it’s still quite funny to think about.
So “I diagnose you with gay” was a real thing a doctor could legitimately say lmao.
A few times some relatives (English not being their native language), when I was younger, would ask me “are you of the gay?!”
I always use the phrase whenever I can. Just typing it is making me laugh.
In new zealand. You can
In Poland also, 4 times a year. But then everybody assumes, You just got drunk. Which is usually true.
Australia too, they’re called mental health days.
There’s plenty days where I’m either burnt the fuck out or feel overwhelmingly constricted by my schedule, as lenient that it is I hate that I have a schedule at all. On those days I’ll just sit back and watch a few space/post apocolyptic movies and maybe do a few minutes of work in between them.
I’m able to do that and don’t even have to hide it, I tell my boss I’m having a movie day and he usually leaves me alone unless something big pops up. He started doing the same, he’s just not as good at it yet.
I’ve wanted to find a new job for more money for a while, but these kind of benifits aren’t listed in job posting and I don’t think I’d last anywhere that wasn’t as lenient.
as lenient that it is I hate that I have a schedule at all.
I feel this
That’s called sick
Exactly… No need to tell them any more than that.
My company has recharge days, basically a separate PTO budget you can use at any time for any reason. I use them so I can go to the beach because it’s always fucking raining during the weekend in NL.
Mental health days are real sick days
Employers can’t legally do anything to stop you from taking time off
They have to pay you for sick time if you have sick time available. They can still count it against your attendance and fire you for it, though.
It’s bullshit, but it’s true.
If you’re caught crying outside the break room, that’s a writeup. It’s how Ash got canned.
I feel like there used to be a time when calling in to work with melancholy was real. Except you didn’t call, you sent a little orphan boy with a letter to your boss and then the orphan just did your job for you.
My kids have days they can call in just for mental health
I wish I had that
I mean, I run my own business, but still…
I have a union job and all I have to do is text my boss “I’m using PTO today.” 30 minutes before my shift starts.
Do you not get mental health days?
No
We basically can at my job, but despite our coworker/manager passing away over the weekend it still feels like we’re all obligated to show up to our daily zoom check ins because everyone is trying to process and seeing faces every day probably helps. If it weren’t for that I’d call in sad for the week.
I’m sorry, that’s awful. How are you doing with it all?
Thanks, and surprisingly I feel like I’ve been doing alright all things considered. It was a tough couple of days at first and felt pretty traumatic losing someone who I saw face to face for years, especially when there was never any indication of any health issue, and they’re the lynchpin holding together our small team - it’s pretty hard to think about how we all wished each other a good weekend on Friday and that was it. But I’ve been trying my best to process in a healthy way and come to terms with the reality that anyone can be taken away at any moment - as if life were a battlefield. This is the first loss I’ve really experienced as an adult and never really had to face that reality. I also find it somewhat comforting that it’s probably unlikely that all the future losses I experience will be so sudden, as well as the fact that our team is all going through this together in our own ways.
I’m lucky that I have a great partner as well as the sweetest cat who is keeping me on my routine. Even if I’m not actually being productive with work, just going through my daily routine and getting used to seeing only the faces of the rest of the team feels like it’s helping. Even making my morning coffee makes me sad because I’m used to seeing my boss shortly after, but I guess the more I do it the less painful it’ll be. I initially wanted to take a week completely off, but part of me feels like showing up on zoom every morning is helping my coworkers as much as it helps me to maintain a sense of normalcy and adjust to how things are going to be.
I’m glad you’ve got your routine and cat! Cats are amazing partners in sad. Make sure you allow yourself just to exist in the complexity of your grief for a while though, there’s no timeline you have to stick to to ‘get over it’.
Thanks for the encouragement, it means a lot :)
I definitely do. I just play sick
if you’re struggling enough you can’t force yourself to go into work, that aint playin sick that’s a genuine mental health incident that needs to be treated with time off
managers don’t need to know whether the illness is brain chemistry, respiratory, or digestive. nor should they care
if you’re struggling enough you can’t force yourself to go into work, that aint playin sick that’s a genuine mental health incident that needs to be treated with time off
managers don’t need to know whether the illness is brain chemistry, respiratory, or digestive. nor should they care
I do. It’s called being sick. Just can’t do it for 3 days in a row without raising flags. 4 days and you gotta get FMLA stuff filled out.
