PLEASE CHECK THIS OUT. Lemmy’s own, and a good buddy of mine, Aeronmelon is going through some shit at the moment and could use some help. Check it out here and consider an upvote or a comment to push it into activity. Sorry, not something I do often or will be spamming. But I care about my friend and if I can get a couple more eyes on his situation then I’m going to try to do what I can.
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Noooo I wanna keep my Schrodinger’s ADHD… not more confirmation that I might have it.
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… I had a childhood?
It took me years but I have a good system for taking my meds. They all go in a Sunday through Saturday pill container. Still having a bit of difficulty with my Ozempic since it’s once a week.
My eldest (just a teenager) insisted that she had a crown on one of her molars when she was younger. I have zero recollection of this, and told her (nicely) that I would have remembered something like that, because crowns are expensive. This went on for several months.
Finally, she pulled out an older pic of herself… With a crown in plain view.
Yes, I apologized. I think that’s when I realized my memory really was that bad.
Good to apologize. I’ve shown my mother proof after proof of things and nope, musn’t have happened, she’d have remembered!
It’s so infuriating.
Seriously. Before I had kids, I took advice like that to heart. I was never totally dismissive, and I absolutely acknowledged my memory being fuzzy, but it just strikes me as odd that I still have zero recollection of this ever happening. It drives me insane.
Hey, I remember a few things from my childhood! Like the trauma and the embarrassing moments!
I remember trauma that I that made me look cool at the time. Screaming at a girl after she answered a math question wrong because the teacher didn’t pick me. Grabbing a ball out of someone’s hands to play 4 square with my friends. Sitting inside while everyone in my class protested gun violence. I don’t like child me, he was wrong and raised by bigots
Take pride in having realized that and becoming a better person, friend!
not all of the trauma ;)
It’s still there, I just don’t remember why
Wait is not remembering your childhood adhd symptoms too? I wonder if thats why so many other can recall things and I cant. I can recall feelings but not actually events.
I can recall a few standout things, mostly highly emotional or embarrassing, but that’s it
I have a few memories from fun vacations, but only small snippets here and there, but those embarrassing or emotionally charged moments? Yup those stand out, and get replayed by my brain often.
Not remembering childhood is not necessarily an ADHD thing. The puberty hormones tell the brain to prune older memories, IIRC it’s called “childhood amnesia”.
Yeah but that applies to ages less than like… 5. Not ages up to 18
That part of ADHD is just these guys working overtime
Shit… did I take my pill this morning?
better than being called big buoy at the beach
I feel like you meant to post this on my PeopleTwitter post about being called a Big Boy lol
wait. how this happened? 🤔
🤣
Does anyone remember much of their childhood?
I mean anyone over 30, or so.
I’m close to 40, and actually have a memory that goes uncommonly far back… like, I’ve considered looking up anyone researching memory about it.
According to what I’ve read, I shouldn’t really remember things too much before 5 (other than episodic and false memories?). But I can still draw the layouts of the first two houses I lived in (first one I moved before 3, the second one I moved shortly after 3). And I can verify that the layouts I remember are pretty accurate. I can remember where furniture was, who’s room was what, and other little memories like putting salt on a bunch of slugs, crying about not being allowed to trick-or-treat, being afraid of my own shadow once?.. strangely far back and more vivid than just flashes of pictures
I also am highly suspicious that I’m somewhere on the spectrum (maybe mixed with ADHD, hard to parse that out). I used to toe-walk as a kid, audio processing issues, below-average facial recognition; it kinda all started adding up the more I considered it
I’m supposed to start therapy again soon and will probably need to see psych about my ADHD meds when I go — so I guess we’ll see what they think. But figured I’d throw my experience into the bag here as well, cause it’s intrigued me for a while
TL;DR - my childhood memory seems to be a little uncommon
Not me. Had an email to my grandmother the other night where she was trying to guilt trip me into coming to see her before she moved into a seniors home. The woman who said I was going to hell for being gay and sobbed, begging me to not be gay while saying in the same breath she knew that I couldn’t change, tried to guilt trip me with the same shit her narcissistic daughter used. Then ended it all saying “Dream of the good times” and I was literally hit by an intense realization that I couldn’t remember any. I know there were some but I can’t remember a singular fucking one. Just general events that happened multiple times. Sort of hoping that’s… normal. Doubting it is.
Sorry. Blabbing. Weird week.
Dream of the good times
They exist, but yeah you might have to dig deep to find them. Adulthood tends to cloud everything as different wants/needs/values clash. Maybe sitting at her kitchen table when you were a kid and she made you something to eat. Feeling sick with a headache, and lying on the sofa as she mopped your brow? Singing you a song as she tucked you in?
Mood the mental gymnastics they go through to manipulate you always stings. My mom and dad are trying to revision my coming out and getting kicked out of the house as my fault and they are sorry my feelings don’t align with theirs. I just kinda left them on read
Over 40, and I remember the vast majority of my entire life.
My attention deficit never really came with hyper activity.
I also have the ability to mostly remember what I was doing before the distraction hit.
Still have the executive disfunction, and and a separate case of depression, which makes everything worse.
Same same but I can’t remember huge chunks of my adults life. I chat with family and friends and they recall stories of things we’ve done together and I don’t remember anything. It helps if I see a photo but sometimes I still can’t recall anything and it just freaks me out.
One of the symptoms of depression is poor memory.
I don’t think that applies to me though, my memory is too poor to be depressed about anything.
Or get ptsd, or anxiety.
So, silver lining I guess.
Same. I do wonder sometimes if I’m living in a Dark City type world where all my memories are vague and recollected by others, and my present is defined largely by furniture and decoration in the room around me. *Looks around* I’m a chaotic tech-guy (programmer maybe?) who dabbles badly in DIY. I might have people who care about me, according to my phone
Same, except I cannot remember song lyrics at all.
This was what I was gonna say lol
SPAMMING OVER 30 COMMUNITIES IS INAPPROPRIATE.
At this rate the only person spamming is you
Is memory loss an ADHD thing? I remember almost nothing from my childhood
That’s me, except I also forget song lyrics. It’s like my brain isn’t capable of paying attention to the words long enough to remember them. Is this an ADHD thing or am I just weird?
Pretty sure it’s an ADHD thing. I’m like that with people’s faces. For a long time I thought I had facial blindness but realized a couple of years ago, I’m just not generally paying attention to faces enough to record them into memory. When I actually learn what someone’s face looks like instead of their general shape/hair/clothes/accessories, I have no problem recognizing them in a variety of situations.
I do that with faces and names lol. I think I’ve gotten better at faces, but names, not so much. I think it’s also an anxiety thing, because when I do recognize someone, I gaslight myself into thinking I don’t. But that one time I thought I recognized someone and made it awkward keeps me from not gaslighting myself.
