• Diva (she/her)
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    6 months ago

    Stip trying to police speech among your allies. Focus on intent. Stop with the nonsense infighting we are at war rn.

    Isn’t that what you’re doing by telling trans people to put up or shut up when ‘allies’ use transphobic/misogynist insults against ‘enemies’

    How are we supposed to know that we won’t just become the next acceptable target for misogynistic/transphobic abuse if/when we end up on liberals ‘enemies’ list?

    Trump and Elon are buffoons, it’s not hard to mock them without tolerating misogyny to do so.

    • @Auli@lemmy.ca
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      46 months ago

      Well the truth is as the world goes down the shitter you’ll lose allies anyway. People don’t care about these issues when they have to worry about shelter and food.

      • Diva (she/her)
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        56 months ago

        I don’t think the people being misogynistic to some rich assholes on twitter are worried about shelter or food.

        That said I also don’t see how the fact that fair-weather allies will eventually abandon their positions when things get hard is a case against having standards for behavior in the here and now.

    • @Hackerman_uwu@lemmy.world
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      16 months ago

      It isn’t tolerating misogyny, it’s pointing out misogyny and ridiculing misogynists.

      It’s OK if you don’t like how that’s being done, and it’s OK if you can’t understand the nuance but policing my speech unchallenged is not what is going to happen.

      • Diva (she/her)
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        56 months ago

        I think I got the nuance behind ‘bigoted man I disagree with is actually a woman because women amirite?’.

        I’m trans, and like actually hate these people, they deserve ridicule. However, if I’m willing to tolerate bigotry on my behalf towards people that are in some out-group, there’s no guarantee that some day I won’t be among that out-group and subsequently targeted by that type of bigotry. Do you understand the issue I’m raising?

        I can’t tolerate people misgendering Caitlen Jenner or Blair white because while they suck, it only contributes to an environment where that type of insult is then considered acceptable.

        • @Hackerman_uwu@lemmy.world
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          16 months ago

          I think I got the nuance behind ‘bigoted man I disagree with is actually a woman because women amirite?’.

          Nope.

          It goes like this: ‘bigoted man is bigoted because this will aggravate his orange tits. If bigoted man was not bigoted it would not be possible to rip on him like this.’

          Put another way: ‘I am a bigot, said John.’

          If that doesn’t clarify it then I’m out of patience to explain further.