This is primarily an issue for guys, typically girls have way more matches. If your match happened to hit it off with someone else first, or they only check when they’re drunk, or you just got lost in the sea, after a few times putting in effort and getting ghosted, you start to be a bit more frugal.
On the other side, you’re used to being flooded with messages, so you never really have to put in much effort until things do start to get interesting.
after a few times putting in effort and getting ghosted, you start to be a bit more frugal.
I see why that would happen but it seems like a self destructive strategy. The other person wasn’t there for all your other attempts. This is your first interaction with them. If you half-ass it, all they see is you’re doing a bad job at conversation. You only get one first impression with someone.
When I give people dating app advice, I tell them if they don’t have the emotional resources to full-ass it, delete the app. Half-assing it is likely going to make things worse.
This is primarily an issue for guys, typically girls have way more matches. If your match happened to hit it off with someone else first, or they only check when they’re drunk, or you just got lost in the sea, after a few times putting in effort and getting ghosted, you start to be a bit more frugal.
On the other side, you’re used to being flooded with messages, so you never really have to put in much effort until things do start to get interesting.
I see why that would happen but it seems like a self destructive strategy. The other person wasn’t there for all your other attempts. This is your first interaction with them. If you half-ass it, all they see is you’re doing a bad job at conversation. You only get one first impression with someone.
Right, but after enough failures the defeat becomes demoralizing. I’m not saying it isn’t self-destructive, but human nature frequently is.
Yeah, can’t disagree with that.
When I give people dating app advice, I tell them if they don’t have the emotional resources to full-ass it, delete the app. Half-assing it is likely going to make things worse.
But humans aren’t rational creatures.