after a few times putting in effort and getting ghosted, you start to be a bit more frugal.
I see why that would happen but it seems like a self destructive strategy. The other person wasn’t there for all your other attempts. This is your first interaction with them. If you half-ass it, all they see is you’re doing a bad job at conversation. You only get one first impression with someone.
When I give people dating app advice, I tell them if they don’t have the emotional resources to full-ass it, delete the app. Half-assing it is likely going to make things worse.
I see why that would happen but it seems like a self destructive strategy. The other person wasn’t there for all your other attempts. This is your first interaction with them. If you half-ass it, all they see is you’re doing a bad job at conversation. You only get one first impression with someone.
Right, but after enough failures the defeat becomes demoralizing. I’m not saying it isn’t self-destructive, but human nature frequently is.
Yeah, can’t disagree with that.
When I give people dating app advice, I tell them if they don’t have the emotional resources to full-ass it, delete the app. Half-assing it is likely going to make things worse.
But humans aren’t rational creatures.