Interesting. I found the opposite. I was never very good at moderating.

Smoking was my addiction. Complete cold turkey removes the question from the table. It might suck, but at least you aren’t in a constant battle with yourself over whether you can have a cigarette now, or should wait. Is one more too many? Am I no longer smoking moderately but addictively? I found it was way too easy to slide down the slope on all that. Getting through the day without smoking meant holding fast 1000 times, and relapsing just meant giving in once. I could always talk myself into why a cigarette was okay this time, why I deserved it, how I’d been doing so well…

Cold turkey just shut all that off and I could move forward. Eventually, when I was truly and finally free of the addiction, and was capable of choosing if I wanted to smoke or not, of course I didn’t want to. It has no benefits other than serving an addiction. I never smoke anymore.

Do what works for you. Just make sure it is actually working and not just giving you the illusion of that.

The reason complete cold turkey doesn’t work for some people is that it’s too overwhelming. You get scared by the idea of never having your fix again ever for the rest of your life. That’s so scary and overwhelming that you run back and have a total relapse.

This is why AA has the motto “one day at a time.” If you’ve ever seen that bumper sticker, that’s what it is. They say to just focus on getting through today. Don’t think of it as forever. At the same time, they don’t like moderate, continuing use. So AA basically is cold turkey, but they have an answer to the issue of it being overwhelming. After all they are right. All you ever have to face is today. Tomorrow is a tomorrow problem.